Jennifer Pearce

Hi there! My name is Jennifer and I am one of the newest members to MomTalk and JustKiddin'. I am a 40-year-old mother who works outside the home. I live with my husband of eleven years and our two young daughters. After being a stay-at-home-mother for six years, I re-entered the workforce when my husband was briefly unemployed. When he returned to work, I chose to keep working due to economics and the age of my daughters at the time. I now work as the advertising manager of a community newspaper and appreciate how working has gotten me much more involved in my community. However, I often miss the opportunity to spend more time with my daughters, or to volunteer more time with their school and activities. My older daughter is a 10-year-old fourth grader, and my younger daughter is a 6-year-old kindergartener. Their many activities and my husband’s complicated work schedule make scheduling our number one family challenge. He works a rotating shift in a retail store that includes many nights and weekends. We struggle to preserve our time together as a family and make the most of it, while still finding time to accomplish our individual goals and pursue our favorite interests. My interests include reading, writing and photography. I love taking family photos and completed a Project 365 in 2010, taking a photo a day for the year. It was a wonderful experience to document our life for a year and appreciate all the little pieces of it. I am currently working to put the 365 pictures into a scrapbook…if I can just find the time. I look forward to sharing our journey with you here on JustKiddin'!

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Babysitting vs. Parenting

What is the difference between babysitting and parenting?  Both require skills such as creativity, maturity, responsibility, & know-how.  However, babysitting is short-term and parenting is long-term.  Parenting takes an added level of maturity to accept that our behavior and actions will affect how our children respond to us, respect us, trust us and whether they will be able to rely on us in their life.  It also takes consistency.  Without consistency there will be a constant behavioral battle.  Our children need us and they need to know they have parents,  not someone that just claims to be the authority figure and uses bribes to get us to behave a certain way.

I often laugh when  I hear a male use the term babysit when referring to their own child.  Why?  Because it’s more than just a donation that he’s made, he has to accept responsibility for partial care of these wonderful children that have been created.  Once you change the outlook and understand parenting, it becomes less of a burden and more of a shared and beautiful process.

I recently had to leave town for a funeral and my husband graciously stepped up and got time off to avoid others having to watch our children during my absence.  I was worried and then I realized how much of a control freak I must be.  Different doesn’t mean bad.  We parent differently and go about things differently.  However, as long as we are fair and consistent in our methods and the children know what to expect with each of us, it can truly work.

Breaks are good for both parents, but that doesn’t mean the other is left babysitting.  They are merely stepping up their parenting responsibilities until it can be shared again.  Plus, it’s boosts the kids confidence that they can depend on two people not just one.  It’s a win-win, thanks honey for stepping it up!

 

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