Jennifer Pearce

Hi there! My name is Jennifer and I am one of the newest members to MomTalk and JustKiddin'. I am a 40-year-old mother who works outside the home. I live with my husband of eleven years and our two young daughters. After being a stay-at-home-mother for six years, I re-entered the workforce when my husband was briefly unemployed. When he returned to work, I chose to keep working due to economics and the age of my daughters at the time. I now work as the advertising manager of a community newspaper and appreciate how working has gotten me much more involved in my community. However, I often miss the opportunity to spend more time with my daughters, or to volunteer more time with their school and activities. My older daughter is a 10-year-old fourth grader, and my younger daughter is a 6-year-old kindergartener. Their many activities and my husband’s complicated work schedule make scheduling our number one family challenge. He works a rotating shift in a retail store that includes many nights and weekends. We struggle to preserve our time together as a family and make the most of it, while still finding time to accomplish our individual goals and pursue our favorite interests. My interests include reading, writing and photography. I love taking family photos and completed a Project 365 in 2010, taking a photo a day for the year. It was a wonderful experience to document our life for a year and appreciate all the little pieces of it. I am currently working to put the 365 pictures into a scrapbook…if I can just find the time. I look forward to sharing our journey with you here on JustKiddin'!

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Like Mother, Like Daughter

The friend who watches my daughters after school a couple times each month commented that when she asks about their day, Connie always says she had a good one while Maggie always grumbles about something.

I’ve noticed this habit of hers lately myself, but to hear it from someone else made me consider it differently. Fifth grade Maggie is known for her good attitude and willing spirit. How could she also be a chronic complainer?

And then I realized that description reminded me of someone else I know…myself.

I think of myself as having an optimistic view of the world. I expect people to be good and do the right thing.

However, when minor things annoy me, I tend to process them verbally. I get it off my chest and then I tend to forget about it. I have actually worried in the past that certain people may think of me as a complaining, negative person.

Now, as one of Maggie’s closest people, I know what it is like for my husband, my mother, and others when they hear my rants. But I also realize that if Maggie is like me, complaining to a confidante is a good way to get past an issue.

The lessons are plentiful. First, I’m going to listen to Maggie’s troubles with a little more empathy, and less judging. Second, I’m going to try to limit my own complaining. Finally, through role modeling and gentle advice, I will try to teach Maggie to limit her own complaining.

As one faithful reader recently wrote, “I just know that when [my child] needs to work on something, I usually do too.”

What habits have you noticed in your children that you need to address yourself?

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