Jennifer Pearce

Hi there! My name is Jennifer and I am one of the newest members to MomTalk and JustKiddin'. I am a 40-year-old mother who works outside the home. I live with my husband of eleven years and our two young daughters. After being a stay-at-home-mother for six years, I re-entered the workforce when my husband was briefly unemployed. When he returned to work, I chose to keep working due to economics and the age of my daughters at the time. I now work as the advertising manager of a community newspaper and appreciate how working has gotten me much more involved in my community. However, I often miss the opportunity to spend more time with my daughters, or to volunteer more time with their school and activities. My older daughter is a 10-year-old fourth grader, and my younger daughter is a 6-year-old kindergartener. Their many activities and my husband’s complicated work schedule make scheduling our number one family challenge. He works a rotating shift in a retail store that includes many nights and weekends. We struggle to preserve our time together as a family and make the most of it, while still finding time to accomplish our individual goals and pursue our favorite interests. My interests include reading, writing and photography. I love taking family photos and completed a Project 365 in 2010, taking a photo a day for the year. It was a wonderful experience to document our life for a year and appreciate all the little pieces of it. I am currently working to put the 365 pictures into a scrapbook…if I can just find the time. I look forward to sharing our journey with you here on JustKiddin'!

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Daddy-Daughter Relationships

It has been interesting to watch the evolution of the relationship between my tween daughter with her father.  Once the apple of his eye, she is now caught trying to make him notice her between two other demanding siblings.  She’s old enough to deal with things on her own, right?!  Wrong!  This is when tween girls need their Dad the most.  They need his reassurance, his approval and love, they need his attention (even when she makes him work for it or “earn” it); daughters never stop needing their Daddy’s.

This great article describes the importance of this relationship and why.  Here are some excerpts:

Fact: Babies as young as six months whose fathers are present and active in the home score higher on mental development tests than babies whose fathers are not present and active.

Fact: Teenage girls who are close to their fathers are far less likely to become sexually active.

Fact: Teenage girls are twice as likely to stay in school if their fathers are involved in their lives.

Fact: Dads matter. A lot.

In her book, Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters (Ballantine Books), Dr. Meg Meeker, a pediatrician, uses these facts and more to make the case that few things matter more to a girl’s mental, physical and social development than her relationship with her father. Drawing on her 20-plus years of counseling teenage girls, she outlines what a father can do to strengthen or heal his relationship with his daughter and help her become a mature and healthy woman.  You can read her whole interview, here. There is a wealth of information that Dr. Meeker suggests for fathers to help them realize how important of a role they do play within their daughters life.  Too many fathers underestimate their worth as a father to their daughters, when it is one of the most important and impressionable relationships.

I’m grateful for my own father and all he did to teach me through his example, letters, “lectures,” and daddy-daughter dates.  I felt important and respected.  I’m grateful for all his efforts to try to make sure we had a healthy parent/child relationship.

Do you think father/daughter relationships are important or as significant as it is made out to be?  What do you hope for with your daughters and their dads?  Do you wish you had a better relationship with your own father?

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