Jennifer Pearce

Hi there! My name is Jennifer and I am one of the newest members to MomTalk and JustKiddin'. I am a 40-year-old mother who works outside the home. I live with my husband of eleven years and our two young daughters. After being a stay-at-home-mother for six years, I re-entered the workforce when my husband was briefly unemployed. When he returned to work, I chose to keep working due to economics and the age of my daughters at the time. I now work as the advertising manager of a community newspaper and appreciate how working has gotten me much more involved in my community. However, I often miss the opportunity to spend more time with my daughters, or to volunteer more time with their school and activities. My older daughter is a 10-year-old fourth grader, and my younger daughter is a 6-year-old kindergartener. Their many activities and my husband’s complicated work schedule make scheduling our number one family challenge. He works a rotating shift in a retail store that includes many nights and weekends. We struggle to preserve our time together as a family and make the most of it, while still finding time to accomplish our individual goals and pursue our favorite interests. My interests include reading, writing and photography. I love taking family photos and completed a Project 365 in 2010, taking a photo a day for the year. It was a wonderful experience to document our life for a year and appreciate all the little pieces of it. I am currently working to put the 365 pictures into a scrapbook…if I can just find the time. I look forward to sharing our journey with you here on JustKiddin'!

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My Tween is Getting Older, Does that Mean I Am Too?

READER’S ADVISORY:  MOM RANT. 

I know my children are getting older because I have to keep buying larger shoes and clothes.  Their interests are becoming more concrete and decided.  They have lost those “baby faces” and acquired a more “grown-up” look.  Their baby teeth are falling out.  What I’m rebelling against is my own “maturing.”

I recently took a survey and discovered that somehow between my last birthday and this week I was bumped up to another age category that included the mid 40′s.  I’m still in my 30′s, can’t someone let me enjoy those years first?  If you ask a child how old they think you are, you may get an answer that is ancient.  It’s not like I walked miles to school up a long hill and back again everyday.  Nor did I attend school where we had to share a tablet.  So, how come I have to “mature?” 

As a mother I am constantly reminded that I’m getting older even though I don’t feel like I am.  When I look in the mirror I see the same girl I did my senior year of high school.  OK, minus a few curves acquired after three childbirths.  (Those are war wounds, not “stretch marks.” ) Yet, that survey really threw me for a loop and made me realize that I too am getting older. 

Just like my tween is discovering new things she will have to face with changes in age and body,  I too am having to face the rapid decline of my body’s metabolism, some “mature” hairs that are not my normal hair color, my quick exertion of energy, my need for sleep, or my ever-changing body temperatures.    I have had to realize that my tweens “growing years” are not just hers.  I am sharing in them too as I discover through life experiences that I will have to grow.  I will have to stretch myself.  I will have to address things I may feel inadequate about.  I’m growing up too in the form of addressing harder issues such as puberty, sex education, peer pressure, drugs, alcohol, etc.

Do you ever feel like the clock has stopped for you?  Do your tween’s remind you that you are getting older?

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One Comment on “My Tween is Getting Older, Does that Mean I Am Too?”

  • Trinyan June 11th, 2010 7:59 am

    The rip in the time-space continuum that accompanies motherhood was never adequately explained in high school parenting classes (for that matter, neither were the “war wounds” to which you refer)! Apparently, the laws of physics are altered with motherhood so that you age 2 years for every 1 year your child ages. How it happens is still one of science’s greatest mysteries.

    But be prepared for additional spurts of insta-aging. For example, the day a daughter gets her period, the day a son’s mustache becomes visible, the day they discover a “hair down there” or realize they are taller than you. Add in first kisses, prom, driving a car, and etc. Such events are accompanied by drastic space-time lurches where aging happens at the speed of light. Wrinkles appear as if by magic and “mature” hairs sprout before your very eyes.

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